Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Stamford's Jan.3 Murder: Too Much Info?

1. I'm a sensitive person. Words matter to me. I don't feel too good about this line from an article in the Stamford Times.

"Paoletta, whose last address was 10 Tuttle St., was a long-time Stamford resident who was well known in by the police department, according to Conklin but does not have an arrest record."

I don't have a problem with the Times printing this. I do have a problem with the police captain saying this about someone. It seems to me that if you're going to imply someone is a trouble maker, you need to have some specifics... if, in fact, that's info you should be sharing.
"Was well-known" is pretty ambiguous. A quick skim made me say, "Oh wow, some police staff were his friends?" A second read made me say, "Oh. He got in trouble a lot, or caused trouble." Now I might have a negative view of this person, not based on any real info. I don't like that. I'd like to know more about Marco Paoletta, more than just that he's not the police's favorite citizen. I do appreciate honesty, but I don't think that's an appropriate comment for the captain to share with the entire city.

Here's a little more info from the Advocate about Paoletta:
"Known to friends and his nine siblings as "Chickie," Paoletta was a lifelong Stamford resident and local racquetball champion, his family said...
Paoletta may have been in the area because he played racquetball often at the nearby Jewish Community Center on Newfield Avenue, said his sister, Brenda.
He had recently taken up the game again and was talking about it at a Christmas dinner with relatives.
"He was happy," Brenda Paoletta said of her brother. "Everything was perfect."
He played racquetball often as a child and won YMCA tournaments, she said.
Paoletta earned an associate degree at Albertus Magnus College in New Haven and worked in the credit division of a bank in Bridgeport, relatives said.
Carmella Circell, another sister, said the family cannot think of anyone who would want to harm their brother.
"I'm just in shock," she said. "I just can't believe someone would murder him. I wonder if he was robbed." (Jan.5 article by staff writer Zach Lowe)

2. I am totally freaked out by this murder. I feel so sorry that this violence had to happen to someone. I'm also freaked out that I could be driving along a road that we take as a shortcut to Dunkin Donuts, and all of a sudden see a bleeding person on the side of the road. That's what happened. Motorists saw this and pulled over. They also heard a loud bang. I don't know details, such as if they saw him pushed out of a car or anything.

I really, really hope they find who did this. I hope Paoletta's car, found burning in Norwalk, will provide leads.

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

The entire Paoletta clan has always been well known to the police department. The men have a history of spouse abus and cheating on their spouses.

Stamford Talk said...

Still... I'm obviously not in favor of spousal abuse but I question putting that in the paper. When something isn't proven, like in a court of law, I don't think it should be public info to be released by the police.

Anonymous said...

People shouldn't make accusations about an entire family when they don't know the facts.

Mommy said...

Your opinion of the "PAOLETTA" clan is really of no importance to us as the family. I realy think it's sad for an individual to slander the name of a murder victim and obviously you have way tooooo much time on your hands. I pray that you find the Lord because He really is only One that can help you!

Danielle said...

"Paoletta Clan" I just love when people stereotype, it obviously depicts what type of person you are. I pitty people like this who are miserable and have nothing better to do with their lives, time, and energy other than slandering a murder victim and his family. I hope you accept the Lord into your heart so that you don't rott in hell

Anonymous said...

Maybe the paoletta's should open their eyes and follow their "religeous advice" own advice. Certainly can't say someone needs to find the Lord when you don't know them.
Marco was the ONLY decent one

Anonymous said...

Boy for a grieving family you have way toooooo much time on your hands to criticize and judge others. If one of my family members were shot to death I would not be on the internet passing judgements.

Anonymous said...

This is very pathetic that someone could find the time to make an untrue accusation about a family.The Paoletta family is an out standing family whose closeness with eachother will remain forever.To talk about someone who was murdered is pathetic i hope you ask god to forgive you for this.

Stamford Talk said...

The character of Marco's family, or Marco himself, is irrelevant. Even if he is "well-known" to the police, that doesn't somehow explain or justify what happened.
I hope the police are making progress on the case. That's what they should be doing, not telling us he was "well-known" to them. I don't care who they know; someone was murdered. We need to find out what happened so the killers can be punished and so we can prevent more crime in the future.

carolyn said...

How sad that people are using the murder of a decent person to vent their anger. I knew Marco, "Chickee", a short time. He shared with me many stories of his family and while yes there may be faults of some individuals, but this tragedy is not the place to air them. What ever differences these people have need to be workedd out in rivate not in ablogger and certainly not 8nder these circumstances.

I have lost a family memebr to murder which to date remains unsolved. It is a very tragic and difficult stressful thing to cope with. I pray that the slander my stop, the killer(s) be brought to justice, the soul od marco may rest in eternal peace and the family may find peace and rest through the Lord.

Chickee, I will miss you. You were a blessing to me and my family the short time I knew you.

Patty said...

I am very sorry for the family's loss. I don't know you, and I didn't know Marco, but my thoughts are with you.

I am watching The Advocate every day to see if there is any further information about this case.

I have so many questions. Was the murder random? A carjacking? Did the victim know the person / people who shot him? What happened?

For the community and for the family, I hope arrests are made sooner than they were in the Anna Lisa Raymundo murder several years back. I know the police need time to investigate, but I hope to see this resolved sooner not later.

Anonymous said...

This blog was started off on the wrong note to begin with. By someone having to say the paoletta family is known for spouse abuse and cheating .That has nothing to do with the article anyways.you are saying this family has too much time on our hands well you started all this by your ignorant comment.we are all trying to deal with this tragedy and when someone is out there starting trouble its our nature to defend our family.

Stamford Talk said...

In a way, the police captain's offhand comment started this all. Comments about the victim weren't appropriate; it should have been handled in a better way. Again, what's important- to the family and to all of Stamford- is to solve the case. I'm surprised I haven't heard more about it in the papers.

Anonymous said...

I knew Marco, he was a good soul. No one is entitled to take the life of another human being. Leaving him in the street to die is unthinkable. I hope this animal is caught and that justice will be served. May God give Marco the everlasting peace and happiness that he deserves.

RKBA said...

He should have brought a gun. Criminal predators hate it when their victims are armed! Better to be judged by twelve than carried by six. Why is it so out of fashion for law abiding citizens to have the means at their disposal to protect themselves and their loved ones from violent crime? We have fire extinguishers to fight fires and we don't hear a constant drone concerning the dangers that having fire extinguishers around will create more fires. The same for guns! The character of a person is not altered by the tool they choose. Be it words or weapons, better to have both at hand and always use the one less costly and more reasonable at first but never deny that in some cases, and this is clearly one, having the best tool for the job can sometimes mean the use of a gun as a best last resort.

Stamford Talk said...

But the KILLERS had a gun at their disposal; that's the problem! If you don't know someone is going to attack you, you're not going to be packing heat, esp. after your racquetball game. In this case, guns made it much easier to hurt someone very quickly and probably gave him little chance to fight.

Sister in-Law said...

To the person that that stated the negetive remark about the Paoletta clan, you Obviously you don't know the family very well for you to make such a comment like that. You stated that all the Paoletta men are abusers and let me tell you that is NOT TRUE AT ALL. I am married to one and had never ever been abused in anyway. If you have some kind of anger towards someone in the family then this isnt the place for you to make such a comment. The families concern is about Chickie and to put some closure to this crime, of course we can't bring Chickie back but to catch the killer would really put the family at some rest. If you know the Paoletta's well then you would know that they are a great family! Chickie we love you and miss you. God Bless you, you are in our thoughts.

Anonymous said...

I knew chickie for years and he was a good dude. he was funny and a nut case (not literally). i'll miss runnin into him from time to time in bpt @ the train station. He had his ways but he would never hurt anyone and would be there if you called.

R.I.P C.H.I.C.K.E